S.O.S Survivors of Suicide

Because we can no longer hold them in our arms, we must hold them extra close in our hearts. (((❤️))) ~mp~

S.O.S Survivors of Suicide

Because we can no longer hold them in our arms, we must hold them extra close in our hearts. (((❤️))) ~mp~

The Ugly Shoes Club

The Ugly Shoes Club

One Fit Widow

“I sure hope you value what you have while you have it.”

I shared this on my personal page last night. So much response - so I knew I needed to share it here too.

I don’t share as often as I used to, vulnerability has an ebb and flow for me.

In early January we renewed the kids passports and I had to dig out the dreaded death certificate for Mitch. Seems almost silly that ten years later it’s still like a punch in the gut but I got it done and was relieved to have bought another 5 years.

When we got home from Bali I received an email telling me I’d provided a copy - not an original death certificate so I’d need to rectify that before they’d issue a new passport for the kids. I’d already provided it twice for Addy and once for Matthew - you’d think they’d have a record of that - and seeing how Mitch hasn’t come back from the dead, a new original didn’t seem necessary. All the same, rules are rules.

So back I went into my files and pulled an original out, and felt that familiar nausea that goes with holding it in my hand. I made the mistake of reading the cause of death and I couldn’t put it in the envelope fast enough and out of my sight.
Still soul crushing.

Ten years
Happy with life
Deeply in love with Keith
At peace with what was and what is

Still, to this day, gut wrenching in relation to my children and what never can be.

That never goes away.

I sure hope you value what you have while you have it.

Live life
Laugh
Smile
Forgive
Be kind
Let go of the petty crap

As Mitch always said...Live in the Moment. 💙 ... See more

One Fit Widow

“I sure hope you value what you have while you have it.”

I shared this on my personal page last night. So much response - so I knew I needed to share it here too.

I don’t share as often as I used to, vulnerability has an ebb and flow for me.

In early January we renewed the kids passports and I had to dig out the dreaded death certificate for Mitch. Seems almost silly that ten years later it’s still like a punch in the gut but I got it done and was relieved to have bought another 5 years.

When we got home from Bali I received an email telling me I’d provided a copy - not an original death certificate so I’d need to rectify that before they’d issue a new passport for the kids. I’d already provided it twice for Addy and once for Matthew - you’d think they’d have a record of that - and seeing how Mitch hasn’t come back from the dead, a new original didn’t seem necessary. All the same, rules are rules.

So back I went into my files and pulled an original out, and felt that familiar nausea that goes with holding it in my hand. I made the mistake of reading the cause of death and I couldn’t put it in the envelope fast enough and out of my sight.
Still soul crushing.

Ten years
Happy with life
Deeply in love with Keith
At peace with what was and what is

Still, to this day, gut wrenching in relation to my children and what never can be.

That never goes away.

I sure hope you value what you have while you have it.

Live life
Laugh
Smile
Forgive
Be kind
Let go of the petty crap

As Mitch always said...Live in the Moment. 💙 ... See more

Silent Grief - Child Loss Support

Never, ever underestimate the value of a picture, especially following the loss of a child.

Silent Grief - Child Loss Support

Never, ever underestimate the value of a picture, especially following the loss of a child.

Simple

The Seasons of Life...

4 Seasons Awesome Painting 🍂☃️🌷🌳

S.O.S Survivors of Suicide

When you have lost someone you love…

Do not make the mistake of living in sadness, or living small to honour their absence.

You owe it to them to live even more vividly than before.

If they could reach you, they would surely say..

“Take the love you had for me and turn it into gladness,
use the love you had for me to drive away the sadness.”

Love is an energy, so powerful, so all-consuming that when the person you felt all that love for is not here, you are a vessel filled with a boundless source of power that has nowhere to go.

Harness it.

Use it to burn even more brightly and live even more loudly than before.

Share the love you felt for that person with all the other special people in your life, for it is limitless. There is no end to it and there never, ever should be.

If they could reach you they would surely say…

“Make my time on earth count loudly, so I’ve not lived in vain.
Use the love we shared to make more love and not more pain.”

If you are struggling to move on, to find the way to carry on. Without them.

This is it.

Use the love.

Carry them with you in all that you do, using their love as the source.

It is what they would want.

Tell their stories, mention their name, feel their love – and share it.

Do not let the pain of their loss overshadow the love that they created whilst alive.

Make them count.

Remember, grief is the price you pay for a love divine. The stronger the love, the deeper the grief but love, love will always win in the end.


#griefjourney #griefandloss

Donna Ashworth
Ladiespassiton.com

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