MY FUNERAL WISHES
The Value of PREPLANNING
The D-Word. We don’t want to think about it. We don’t talk about it. The subject is taboo. Everybody gets uncomfortable by the mention of it, but it is something we HAVE TO discuss & PLAN FOR … because death does not make an appointment!
By doing some Preplanning with regards to your own funeral, means that you are considering your loved ones and you are actually doing them a huge favour. It will be a source of comfort for those you leave behind when the time comes, if they know that your funeral is exactly what you would have wanted…
Furthermore, you are saving them from making important financial decisions when in fact they need time to grieve about your passing. One cannot think straight when you have lost someone dear to you. It is the worst thing ever if your family members were kept in the dark and they have no idea what your wishes were, because you never told anyone what you would have wanted!
It’s easy to say: “Don’t make a fuss over me. No funeral service for me. Just get rid of my body.” Just remember: the ritual of a funeral or memorial service is primarily for those who remain behind, not so much for the deceased.
The funeral service is a gathering of family and friends, where they can cry, comfort and support each other openly.
You can relay your funeral wishes informally by completing the MY FUNERAL WISHES Form below and discussing it with a close family member. You may wish to consult your funeral director and give your wishes through in writing. Some people also pay for their funerals in advance.
Ensure that your wishes are easily accessible in case of emergency by keeping a LIFE FILE – then make sure your next-of-kin knows where your LIFE FILE is kept!
In doing some Preplanning, the peace of mind that it brings for you and your family, is immeasurable. Everybody will know that your affairs are in order. We would like to invite you to visit us for a cup of tea, whilst discussing this important matter.
By doing Preplanning, you will:
- Make all arrangements timeously while everybody is calm and at peace, not leaving matters for your loved ones to sort out in their time of bereavement;
- Make your wishes known;
- Control and protect the cost of your funeral;
- Organise your personal administration & file all your documents in a LIFE FILE which is easily accessible to your loved ones when the time comes;
- Cover the cost of your funeral, so that there is no need to utilize your life assurance to pay of your funeral;
- Make provision for unforeseen circumstances.
WHEN DEATH OCCURS:
The following information/documentation will be required:
- ID-document of Deceased
- ID-document of person arranging the funeral
- Contact details of the Doctor who last treated the Deceased
- Date & time preferred for the funeral service
- Details of the Minister of Religion (name & tel. no.)
- Name & address of Church/Chapel
- Details of Cemetery (if applicable)
- Hymns (normally 2)
- List of Bearers (normally 6 bearers per adult)
- Special Requests, eg. photo’s, CD’s, DVD’s, floral tributes, clothing, etc.
If there are any funeral policies, the following information will be required:
- ID-document of Deceased
- ID-document of Claimant
- Original Policy Contracts
- Marriage Certificate (if applicable)
Make sure you are remembered for the right reasons and not because of the chaos you left behind for your loved ones to sort out, because your affairs were not in order.
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