The death of a loved one is hard to understand at any time but, for many, the loss of a child is incomprehensible. Yet this loss is experienced by hundreds of families. For those families, the stillbirth or death of their child is something that will affect them, and their families, for the rest of their lives.
With the loss of their child, many parents feel the loss of their hopes, dreams and plans for the future. Following the death of your child, you may be left shocked and devastated, having thought that this would never happen to you. Suddenly your expectations for the future are shattered. Your feelings are likely to be intense as you search for reasons why your child died. To feel sad, empty and bewildered at this time is understandable. These feelings are all part of grief and are common responses to loss. During the days, weeks and months that follow, you may often feel alone in your grief.
The death of a child will be the most distressing event that has ever happened to a family and, perhaps, it is the first time that you are involved in arranging a funeral. Some of us look back at this time and wish that we had known, then, the choices available to us; with hindsight, we might have done things differently. Planning the funeral service can become the final act of caring for your child, and will enable you to feel that you have some element of control in your life.
At Sonja Smith Funeral Group (Pty) Ltd, we believe that if at all possible, both parents should be involved in planning the funeral service of their precious child. Often relatives and friends may offer to fulfill the role of arranging the funeral in order to save the parents from the pain. It is going to be difficult, yet it is also a critical step in the healing process. In our experience, parents who were not involved in the planning process, often say they felt uncomfortable with the choices made on their behalf for their child’s service.
“It is your child who has died and it is important that in planning the funeral you are able to express the loving relationship you had with your child in a way that is meaningful for you.”
Sonja Smith Bereavement Care offers help and advice to those coming to terms with the death of a loved one as part of our funeral policy benefits. People deal with death and bereavement in many different ways. Sonja Smith Bereavement Care is there to care for the bereaved and to help those who have suffered the death of a friend or family member to understand their grief and cope with their loss.
Support Groups offer help and understanding to all bereaved parents who suffered the loss of a child/children irrespective of age, race or denomination.
The Support Group provides free support, information and advice, as well as training services.
We have a full range of CD’s Conversations on Grief by Braam Klopper available at all our branches.