Furthermore, besides grieving the loss of your loved one, you may also mourn the loss of being a caregiver. You will find an overwhelming emptiness by not being able to fulfill the role of carer anymore… It is quite normal under the circumstances and in fact this can be regarded as a double loss. Be kind to yourself…
When Grief Seems to Last Forever
The time frame for the grieving process differs from person to person, but the first two years will be the toughest. However, if you suspect that your grief is taking too long to subside naturally and sufficiently for you to cope with life again, it may well be time to consider making contact with a Grief Support Counsellor to help
you gain some perspective and direction from a professional. There is nothing wrong asking for help in a situation like this, since complicated grief, left untreated, can lead to several mental health problems in the long-term.
Also seek help when you encounter disenfranchised grief. Commonly known as hidden grief or sorrow, disenfranchised refers to any grief that goes unacknowledged or unvalidated by social norms. This kind of grief is often minimized or not understood by others, which makes it particularly hard to process and work through. A perfect example is the loss of an ex-spouse. Read more…
As unimaginable as it may feel now, you will not be stuck in your full-blown grief forever, and you will make it through the year of firsts. Eventually, you will be able to enjoy life again. So here’s a thought to ponder on: When is the right time to take off your wedding ring after losing a spouse? We will touch on that question in another blog.
Remember too that grief is a process – a never-ending journey. That doesn’t mean that you must sit back and wait for stages of grief to ‘happen’ to you. Instead, tackle the grief tasks and work through them actively. You may never reach a point in time when you stop missing your loved one or shedding a tear for them from time to time, but that’s okay.
Tears are simply an expression of your overwhelming love for someone close to your heart.
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